Nowhere to Hide, Jerome Schultz : Although the title is a bit dramatic, this book is incredibly compassionate and also evidence-based. It explained, from a scientific and also empathic viewpoint, why children with ADHD and learning disabilities may be so resistant and stressed (or, as some like to call it, "defiant") at school.
Unconditional Parenting, Alfie Kohn : This book takes a highly compassionate, supportive, and loving approach to parenting and to ensuring our children feel loved no matter what. When some factions of society (including a lot of educators and administrators) are telling us that children need "consequences" (i.e. adult-imposed punishment) for making mistakes, Alfie Kohn allows us to appreciate and remember that we all make mistakes and that this an integral part of learning. If we are afraid to err, then we are afraid to try. Alfie Kohn teaches us that discipline is part of the problem, not the solution. If we are afraid to make mistakes for fear of punishment, then we will be less likely to reach our full potential. Click here to learn more about Alfie Kohn's theories. If you only have room on your bookshelf (or in your brain) for two books, I would recommend Dr. Ross Greene and Alfie Kohn. Alfie Kohn also has a blog that is well worth following.
Parenting Without Power Struggles, Susan Stiffelman : Yes, this! Susan Stiffelman's book focuses on seeing our children's resistance, not as defiance, but as behaviour that is communicating something important. Stiffelman encourages adults not to take behaviour personally, but to understand why the behaviour makes sense, and what purpose it serves. When we seek to understand what the child is trying to achieve through their behaviour, rather than punishing their surface actions or engaging in power struggles, we become a team working together rather than working against each other trying to "win" a battle. Visit Susan Stiffelman's website to learn more.
What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew, Dr. Saline : Another compassionately written book filled with practical advice that is easy to read for busy parents.
A trigger warning: much of the early parts of the book (particularly the second chapter) encourage parents and readers to take a deep-dive into their own attachment history in order to better understand their own response to children's needs. This can be a difficult journey for anyone who had a traumatic or difficult childhood, so one may wish to seek support prior to, or while going through, this process.
One of my favourite Podcasts is Tilt Parenting by Debrorah Reber. Each episode she interviews an expert on a different topic related to parenting, neurodiversity, school, and childhood struggles. Something that I love about her Podcast website is that you can sort the episodes by topic, so you can easily search for the episodes relevant to you, your family, and/or your interests.
Dr. Ross Greene has a podcast as well. This is a call-in style podcast where parents call with challenges they are facing and Dr. Greene and his co-host help them work through it in a CPS style.
A podcast geared specifically towards neurodivergent and 2e ("twice exceptional") folks is Mind Matters. Neurodivergence is any brain outside of the "norm" (typically developing), this can be giftedness, ADHD, autism, learning disabilities, any way in which our brains diverge from the mainstream.
Susan Stiffelman, author of Parenting Without Power Struggles, also has a podcast of the same name. Susan Stiffelman usually speaks with an expert guest on a variety of topics related to parenting, family life, and neurodiversity.
In It: Raising Kids Who Learn and Think Differently : From the creators of Understood.org, host Amanda Morin talks with families of kids who struggle with reading, math, focus, and they also speak with experts who offer support and practical advice.
Books & Videos for Children & Youth
Survival Guide for Kids with ADHD: It says it's appropriate for grade levels 3-7. Depending on the child's reading abilities and maturity, it's probably more suitable for grade levels 3-6. In kid-friendly language and a format that welcomes reluctant readers, this book helps kids know they’re not alone.
My Brain Needs Glasses: This book is written from the perspective of an 8 year old boy, so it is geared toward second and third-graders. Our son read it in first grade and still found it relatable, it is likely suitable for readers at 2nd-4th grade levels, or to be read with an adult for first-grade level readers.
Bryan Smith has a great series of kid's books on various types of Executive Functioning challenges that are also geared toward grade 2-3 level readers, but would be suitable for grades 1-4 level readers, with some help for the first graders.
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